Susan Kushner Resnick

You Saved Me, Too

Aron Lieb approached Susan Resnick at a Jewish community center fifteen years ago and found a companion and soul mate who was steadfastly by his side for the rest of his life. You Saved Me, Too is the incredible story of how two people shared the hidden parts of themselves and created a bond that was complicated, challenging, but ultimately invaluable.

Susan was attracted to Aron’s warmth and wit, such a contrast to his tragic past as a Holocaust survivor. But soon she realized how deep his wounds were as she began dealing with his mental illness, fighting the mainstream Jewish community for help with his care, and questioning her faith. The dramatic tension builds when Susan promises not to let Aron die alone.

This book chronicles a remarkable friendship, which began with weekly coffee dates and flourished into much more. With beautiful prose, it alternates between his history, their developing friendship, and a current health crisis that may force them to part.


“Resnick expertly ... intersperses bits and pieces of Aron's life in the camps with her feelings about Judaism, her family life and her steadfast belief that the world should do right by her friend, a man who had suffered more than enough. . . . Resnick's compassionate prose captures the voice and soul of Aron, ensuring that his memories will continue long after the number ‘141324’ has disappeared. A poignant, memorable story of friendship and of a period in time that should never be forgotten.”

--Kirkus Reviews, starred review

"You Saved Me, Too is a soulful story about two unlikely companions—a young mother and an elderly Holocaust survivor—and their complicated, hilarious, and extraordinary friendship. With razor sharp wit and a compassionate eye, Resnick deftly weaves together the personal and the historical in this heartbreaking, yet uplifting memoir. This book reminded me of why we are here—to help ease the suffering of others and to fearlessly love one another to the end of time."

--Mira Bartok, author of The Memory Palace, National Book Critics Circle Award, 2012

In well-executed, second-person prose, Resnick speaks directly to the elderly Aron Lieb—a virtually family-less Holocaust survivor whom she befriends—as he lies on his deathbed in a nursing home. Short vignettes skip back and forth through time, covering the history of their relationship: Resnick’s struggle with Jewish identity (“I figured as long as I stayed ambivalent about being Jewish, I might not get killed by the Nazis the next time they came”) and Aron’s own history before, during, and after the war...Resnick displays her artistic skill as she attempts to make sense of Aron’s life in light of her own.

--Publisher's Weekly - Starred review

“A rare gem, You Saved Me, Too, finds beauty, humor, and inspiration in even the darkest of moments. Susan Kushner Resnick masterfully interweaves her own narrative with that of an unlikely friend and mentor whose wisdom is rooted in his suffering and in his inevitable flaws. This book celebrates life itself and the redemptive power of love on every page. It also has many lessons to impart, and belongs on every bookshelf right next to Tuesdays with Morrie.”

--Carlos Eire, author of Waiting for Snow in Havana, winner of the National Book Award

"Susan Kushner Resnick writes with compassion and sometimes anger -- but never with sentimentality. Her memoir captures life's cruelties and arbitrariness with an artist's eye, reminding the rest of us what Holocaust survivors already know: that nothing in life -- a pet dog, a child's prank, a chance encounter at a JCC -- is routine; that there is beauty everywhere we are willing to look."

--Josh Rolnick, author of Pulp and Paper

"Resnick's humor, elegant writing, and almost Anne Frank-like combination of sweetness and sassiness made this the first Holocaust-related book I have enjoyed, or could even bear to read, in many decades.”

--Marion Winik, author of The Glen Rock Book of the Dead, and First Comes Love

“The struggle to ensure that Aron's end-of-life days would be comfortable, dignified, and above all companioned—that's a lesser-known tale of survivor experience. That is Susan Kushner Resnick's key contribution—to the literature, and to Aron's life.”

--Erika Dreifus, author of Quiet Americans: Stories